A essay with negative thoughts

how to deal with negative thoughts

I dare to risk saying that each of us sometimes has the so-called worse days. Such, when we see everything in gray colors, when we lack motivation and everything seems to overwhelm us.

Since I had to fight with these not the best moments, I decided to share with you my proven ways to return to mental form.
Free yourself from the vicious circle of negative thoughts!

And I do not mean sweeping problems or unpleasant thoughts under the rug. Simply put, when we are in the center of the spiral of negative thoughts, the image we see is narrowed and it is hard for us to look at everything from a wider = better perspective. Negative thoughts give us unpleasant feelings that intensify negative thoughts over and over again.

How to break free from the spiral of negative thoughts?

For some it may be helpful to run around the block or other physical effort (unfortunately I do not belong to this group), for others ironing can effectively break free from torture, for me it is best to check or read.

No matter how - the most important thing is to break away from your own spiral for a moment. And when you do it, I recommend you two exercises that 99% - as long as you do them - will improve your mood, and the motivation itself will start to appear on the horizon.

10 things you are grateful for

It is worth (in writing) to create a list of at least 10 items for which at the moment you are grateful. Today my list looks like this:

I am grateful that (in a completely non-binding order):

1. My relatives and I are healthy (on a macro scale, but it is also very much)
2. I have a wonderful husband who is with me for better and for worse - I checked! (Thank you darling)
2. I have a "house" (and it is not a building)
3. I have a camera that can take beautiful photos
4. I have a cat who loves to hug me and purrs so wonderfully
5. I have a job that I like and that can give me great satisfaction
6. I have a nice office (it wasn't always like that)
7. I have free time to work on myself and write a blog (how often do I miss it!)
8. I have a few wonderful people in my family and a few friends whom I can count on, even in the most difficult moments
9. I could buy these gray curtains for a large room - I was waiting for this mini color metamorphosis so much
10. I sit in bed, with my laptop in my lap, sipping cupcake-flavored tea

And how can you say that life is hopeless after writing such a list? You can't!

Personally, after such a dose of positive energy, I am able to take a closer look at the problems that bother me most and deal with them.

(And it's a good idea to carry the list with you and pull yourself like an ace out of your sleeve when poisonous thoughts make themselves felt.)

Deal with negative thoughts

How can you go about it?

First, write on your paper the most troubling problems.
Secondly, analyze them in terms of whether they are based on facts or only on your suppositions.

A dissertation with an example of a problem written on a piece of paper:

Thought:

The client does not reply to my e-mail with the project, she has certainly found another designer who will reveal my ideas and implement them without my participation.

Feeling:

By thinking this way, you definitely feel cheated, you lose the motivation to work.

Analyze:

The only fact in the above sentence is that so far the client has not replied.
All the rest, which is the worst black vision, are just fingerprints. Once you know this, you can go ahead and correct your thinking

New thought:

The client does not reply to my project email. For sure, there is a reason (even as prosaic as the lack of time) if he does not write back in the next 2 days I will call and find out why.

New feelings:

You will definitely feel much better and use the positive energy in the implementation of subsequent projects.

And let's not play fairy, let's remember that:

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And how is it with you? Will you agree with my statement that everyone has bad days?

If so, what are your proven ways to fight these "grays"?

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  • Małgorzata Bugajska
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    13.09.2016

    You don't even know how much I need this text today - hit in 10! It seems so obvious what you write and yet it is so brilliant. He will definitely apply, still today 🙂
    I greet you warmly

    • 13.09.2016

      Gosia, you don't even know how I'm happy 🙂 I add to the list of the next 10-30 subsections everyday in difficult moments, it helps for a long time 🙂

  • Anonymous
    Reply
    26.09.2013

    I needed that, thank you for this post! Have you still forgotten about the most important joy 🙂 Where is the point about your marriage? 😉
    A growing family is the greatest joy 🙂
    Joanna

    • Anonymous
      26.09.2013

      It was supposed to be "babies" instead of "marriage" 🙂

  • 23.09.2013

    Great post :)
    I really like your blog so let me check back here more often and observe :)

  • Anonymous
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    17.09.2013

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  • 11.09.2013

    Everyone needs such a thesis 🙂
    Now in autumn, we'll be writing an essay after wyprac
    AND! I caught you on Insta 😀

  • 09.09.2013

    I support 🙂
    and when I start thinking about these bad events, that's how I try to drive them away 🙂

  • 08.09.2013

    Thank you for this post! I immediately felt better as I read it. :)

  • Singing Cream
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    06.09.2013

    In order to break free from the spiral of negative thoughts, I watch my favorite comedy series. 'Friends' act like a magic wand on me: D

  • 06.09.2013

    right, I agree 100% - nice entry :) have a nice weekend! :)

  • 05.09.2013

    I really like this post and this "motto" in the picture 🙂
    I read that while writing your post you were sipping cupcake-flavored tea. Was it Lipton Blueberry muffin? If so, could you please write to me if it really tastes like that and is it worth buying? Because thanks to its name, this tea tempts me very much… 😀

  • 05.09.2013

    A fair point to note that what we worry about will not happen in most cases, but… It is mostly ingrained in our psyche and it is difficult to distort and change our way of thinking. Nevertheless - it's worth a try 🙂

  • 05.09.2013

    agrees 🙂 Worrying will not save tomorrow, but will spoil it today :)

  • 05.09.2013

    I also have these thoughts, but unfortunately I usually get into the pillow and it's hard to get rid of them 🙁

  • 05.09.2013

    Of course it's true! We worry too much, too often and groundlessly. We can't enjoy little things that we simply don't notice, having eyes covered with problems. You have to discover the nature of the southerner and simply enjoy life 🙂
    Fighting with "grays"? Even more gray, white and black for home in the form of small interior changes and making others happy - I recommend!

    • 05.09.2013

      And keep it up - a life full of colors! It's about being happy. Your advice very valuable 🙂

  • 05.09.2013

    Of course it's true! We worry too much, too often and groundlessly. We can't enjoy little things that we simply don't notice, having eyes covered with problems. You have to discover the nature of the southerner and simply enjoy life 🙂
    Fighting with "grays"? Even more gray, white and black for home in the form of small interior changes and making others happy - I recommend!

  • 05.09.2013

    Great message, I think I'll put it on the wallpaper 🙂 That's right, in life we ​​underestimate what we have and worry about unnecessary supply ...