How to survive at home with a newborn baby?

how to survive at home with a newborn baby

Our first 14 days at home with the baby were more beautiful than I dreamed of. Paternity leave is the best invention in the world. The crisis came a day later ...


I still remember that it was Monday. Wojtek returned to work, and I was alone with the child for 5 hours and I could not find myself in the new situation.


Organizing a 3-day wedding for 150 people turns out to be much easier for me than organizing a day with a Newborn or Infant. Seriously. Certainly not every mom has a problem with it, but my daily rhythm was always determined by school or work and I could not function without such a time frame, I felt completely lost in the new conditions, where every minute of the day was controlled by a certain Little Man, whom the way could not be programmed.


It happened to me several times to read from you that I frost up too much, but I'm just not in the habit of whining just like that, I have an attitude in my life aimed at solving the problem and that is why you had to wait so long for this post. I do not want to write for the sake of writing about problems, just to present possible solutions to the situation.


So how is it with a newborn baby? What helped me to embrace my life, which was totally incomprehensible, and it had a broken and disorganized self?


1. Frieze and eye

You think so. However, not many things spoil my mood like seeing a neglected self. Untreated hair, gray complexion and dark circles under the eyes in the mirror make me feel like *** whenever I go to the bathroom (two large mirrors) or stroll around the bedroom (large mirror). And after a few or several dozen such sessions alone with my reflection I am fed up with myself. I will not mention that I do not feel like all these cute pictures with a child and I feel even worse than I look. A crying and whining child does not improve the situation, you do not have to pee when you do because you either feed or scroll, or bounce, or wear, or in your free time you take a breath giving away hearts on Instagram. If you have the same advice I can do it: get up alone with other household members and spend at least 15 minutes in the bathroom. Thanks to this, someone else will be able to react to the crying baby, and you will have a moment to take care of yourself. For me, it was obligatory time to wash and style my hair, apply foundation and mascara (to my favorite cosmetics to 50 PLN). You probably think that I fell on my head, get up so early, but you are not prevented from returning to bed right afterwards? If I didn't do it myself, I risked wandering around the house in my pajamas by 16:XNUMX pm, pretending to the postman that no one was at home.


2. Cool clothes

Who said that clothes around the house must be old, pulled out and ugly? Mine are pretty, I buy them especially for this purpose. I have nice tracksuits, blouses, sweatshirts and warm sweaters in my favorite colors. Plus nice slippers and I feel more comfortable and better right away. I would not like to spend the whole day in old jeans, which I felt too bad to throw away. Or in the pants where I leave the house because I would still be afraid of getting them dirty. If you want to give you a few of my favorite, comfortable home clothes that endure everlasting laundry and won't ruin your wallet.


3. A moment for yourself

Although I usually do hybrid manicure at home aloneWhen my child was about a month old, I decided to transfer this treatment to a beautician. Every two weeks on Saturday at 10 o'clock I would stand at the door of the salon to ... talk about anything and everything, have a coffee in the company of other adults, choose a new nail polish color, which has never been so exciting before, just let someone take care of yourself . Well-groomed hands and feet allowed me to feel attractive every day. What about that Child? There were two versions, in the first one I took my Child, Husband and a stroller with me so that they could walk while I was undergoing the procedure, in the second I left the bottle with food at home and they had to deal with it - they usually did better than I did, sometimes even my husband did the washing he managed to insert.


4. A phone call to a friend

I don't think it does anything as good as being able to talk yourself out. Here, it is only worth choosing people at a similar stage in life, because a childless friend sitting in the office may have a heart attack when she learns that you are all wet with milk and you have not washed your hair for 3 days. You don't have anyone like that among your friends? Sign up for a Facebook group or go to a club for moms with your child. On such a group I met a fantastic friend who lives on the estate next door, almost identical to my child, so the number of topics in the style of "and me", "my already", "my still", "and me", "and you got already baby shower? " we're not running out of time!


5. A constant supply of food

If you are hungry, everything seems worse than it really is. That's why, beside the bed and feeding chair, I always had a supply of water and snacks in the 3 style, a packet of biscuits, and when I opened the last one I brought two more.


6. Good reading

breastfeeding kindle organization

During the first months I spent some 8 hours a day feeding. Seriously! Every 2-3 hours feeding session, each lasting from 40 to 80 minutes. Such a case. Thanks to the Kindle, I was catching up with reading seriously. Easy, light and pleasant, holding a book in one hand and changing pages with one finger I could read one book a day and buy new ones without leaving home (you can read about good breastfeeding organization here).


7. Walk

Because movement is health and endorphins! A quick walk, a slow walk, every walk, refreshes thoughts, wakes the body and allows you to get back to shape faster before pregnancy (you can read about my return to form here). Therefore, a daily walk is needed as much for mothers and children. For many months I was able to rip my friend's walks from the estate, so we were up to date with all promotions in supermarkets and never overpaid for diapers.


8. Shawl

For colic, sleepless nights, unloved crying, a good headscarf for everything. You can read about our shawning adventure here. Are you afraid of scarves? Nothing is lost - they are here secure baby carriers for the newborn!


9. Car seat

It must be suspended from the ceiling so that the child can swing in it. More than once, tired at 3 am, we hung the car seat on the towing rope, we lay down on the floor to swing, swing ... our last resort, it always worked. Patent snapped from friends (who had a higher version of the invention using an elastic cord, thanks to which the seat not only rocked, but also jumped up and down!). Of course, we used it with common sense, not exceeding the time that the Child should spend in such an invention at once.


10. A child at hand

cosleeping basket of Moses

Personally, I was afraid of sleeping in the same bed with the Child, but sleeping in its immediate vicinity when it was right next to it in the wicker basket of Moses allowed me to sleep while it was sleeping, save time for running between rooms and the whole family to feel safe (about our sleeping solutions you can read here).


I loved the idea of ​​Moses' basket so much that with my second child I also decided on it, this time, however, I chose a different Moses basket.



What else?


And most important!

Don't be afraid to ask for help. Do you have problems with feeding? There are lactating midwives since they are solved, are you nervous with a delicate rash? The pediatrician will dispel your doubts. The list of phone calls to people who can help you at any time gives you a great sense of security, so it's worth taking care of it before delivery.


And what became the biggest problem for you when your baby appeared in the world? Write, we will advise you!

Leave a comment:

  • 18.10.2018

    It is worth preparing a list of duties and planning everything, or at least try. The baby's appearance in the world can turn the world upside down and you have to remember a lot of things. Especially when it is the first child and we do not know what to expect yet 🙂

  • ka

    I didn't read any more nonsense

  • 11.12.2015

    A great set of tips, I will definitely use. I'm just expecting a baby, but to make my life easier I chose a cot added to mine. I know that this is a big expense only for 6 the first months, but as hell I'm afraid to wake up at night. I am the type who must sleep 8 hours regardless of the situation. Otherwise I'm dead the next day.

    • 06.01.2017

      Kasia, I am very curious how did the cot work for you? And how do you manage your 8 sleep hours? I will be pleased if you respond to the account 🙂

  • 09.12.2015

    Many mothers praise the makeup method.
    As you advise, "get up alone together with other household members and spend at least 15 minutes in the bathroom." 🙂
    I think that it is very effective in raising the well-being of a "newly" mum.

    I forgot to write that in one entry you could reveal reading titles that you managed to devour during breastfeeding.

    • 09.12.2015

      Thank you, I think I would like to share my favorite items, although no one will be surprised that many of them were about children 😉 there were hits and total kits!

    • 09.12.2015

      It is all the more good material for the entry "hints and kits" 😉

  • Em Ka

    We want you to drop some of your favorite, comfortable home
    clothes that endure everlasting laundry and don't ruin your wallet 😉

    • 06.01.2017

      My absolute hit is the Cangaroo pants - they are over 2 years old today and I still wear them and wash them and even go to the store wearing them.
      I have a few T-shirts from the youth store House - they cost less than PLN 20 and I have not thrown any of them yet, because they are still ok. Their zipped sweatshirt is also a revelation, perfect for night feeding - when I am tired I feel very cold.
      And mandatory colorful positive socks, I buy them, for example, in Oysho.

  • Carolina

    At my beginning, feeding is ok 20 min .. now some 5 😛 I can't even catch up with Instagram: P

    • 29.11.2015

      Amazing 😀 I don't know what that means, for me feeding is more than a full-time job 😀

  • 27.11.2015

    For me, the beginnings were very difficult, because for almost two months I did not walk at all, I was bedridden, because I had serious problems with the pelvis. I couldn't quite take care of my daughter and shed tears of water through it. All in all, I could only feed her and lie next to her. My husband had to look after Amelka and me. It was a difficult time for all of us. So there was no way about hair, makeup, nice clothes, walking and wearing a shawl. It is a pity, because I missed a lot. All I did was read a pile of books and tried to talk a lot to my loved ones on the phone. But despite the difficult beginnings, we managed and now I am happy as much as I can my 14 one month old daughter

    • 27.11.2015

      Gee, I feel so sorry for you! I had problems with my pelvis during pregnancy and I was threatened with gypsum if I gave birth naturally, but what you write is absolutely unimaginable to me 🙁
      I'm so sorry you had to go through this to
      I am very happy that it is already behind you, it certainly has strengthened you incredibly !!! I hug you very much!

  • PeugeotCikowa

    I am curious about my first days with my son. Curious and scared, yo for a change. 😉

    • 27.11.2015

      Dear, it will be wonderful! I wrote recently how to prepare for the first days with the newborn, did you read? It might be a bit harder later, but good organization is the key to everything.

    • PeugeotCikowa

      I read

  • Life and chill

    I'm just before all this, so some good advice will definitely be useful to me. I see that we think similarly about sleeping toddler. I am just preparing a room for a child, with furniture, a feeding chair and a cot. But at night, wanting to have them close to me, I'm going to put the cradle next to the bed, so as not to sleep with the baby, but to have it close 🙂

  • 27.11.2015

    One more month and I will surely use your advice. For now, I can say from almost-we-on-l4 perspective that in fact, when I do not do the minimal version of makeup (mascara + concealer under the eyes) I feel worse all day long. Especially since clothes around the house that go beyond my husband's old t-shirt and leggings somehow can't convince myself. I have the impression that when cleaning and cooking, all clothes get dirty immediately (and probably even more so with my child!), I would not be able to keep up with the washing of home sets ;-).

    • 27.11.2015

      So I'm not alone 😉
      Maybe you know how Dzidzia will be born and in each photo you will have an old t-shirt, you will want a new one 😉
      I agree that clothes get dirty quickly, so mine are usually in 100% cotton, not too expensive, I wash them all the time, 3 pairs of pants + 2 sweatshirts + 2 sweaters, even with a toddler, usually enough for me, although it happened that one on 3 day, a pair of pants were to be washed and so-called clothes to paint 😉

    • 27.11.2015

      There is something to it, especially when I take into account that I will spend the next 12 months mainly at home with my baby. So I guess you can't do without buying cool home clothes ;-). Anyway, throughout my pregnancy I tried not to buy clothes, but the minimum necessary to survive, so when I throw off this "ballast" I will probably go quickly for something comfortable to wear 😉